I started my blog just over 2 years ago now and although its not the most popular site on the www, its getting more hits than I could ever have imagined.
I truly believed that it would be my space to write about things I love, to also write reviews on things I have bought or used myself that I couldn't find reviews for elsewhere and only a very small amount of people would see it. This hasn't been the case which amazes me.
At first I didn't say anything to my friends or family. I was naïve to think that they would hunt down my blog and pick out all the things they could use to "take the mickey". I know full well from the messages, comments and emails I receive that this is a common problem for people just starting out or thinking about starting their blog/YouTube and I can 100% relate to them.
For years I had planned on blogging but due to the fear of what people may think, I put it off for far too long. After years of being too afraid I decided to take the plunge in to the world of blogging for the whole world to see.
Has it been 100% positive? No, not at all but like all things in life, there has to be a balance between positive and negative.
Most of the negativity I receive has come from the use of Instagram. It only takes one person to not like what they see and comment something nasty and you begin to feel like this path you're going down is the wrong one.
Have my friends been positive about my blog? The majority yes, however the ones that made snidey comments I came to realise weren't true friends anyway!!
My first tip for battling the bullies is not to react to their comments. Doing this is what they want. Simply delete the comment so another user can't join in on their mission to make you feel negatively about what you're doing and also to stop an argument from being created if somebody decides to respond on your behalf. Block these users if needs be.
If people are nasty in person, you do not need to justify what you are doing. You are doing what you feel is best for you and you are getting enjoyment from what you are doing. Nobodies opinion should be taken into consideration if it doesn't concern them, your happiness comes before all else.
Do not feel guilty about you're decisions. If somebody wants you to do something for them e.g. a shoutout on Instagram or a product review for their products, and you do not have the time or you don't feel it appropriate for whatever reason, there is nothing wrong with politely reclining. If they hurl abuse at you for this decision, remain polite and again avoid negative responses.
You might think this will never happen to you, however from personal experience I can say it happens a lot more often than it should!!
Personal comments are probably the one I have experienced the most. A lot of people turn nasty very quickly when they don't get their own way or they don't like what you are doing. I have been told to 'kill myself' and that 'I should have been aborted'... what is wrong with these people!? You have a right to post what you want wherever you want as long as it doesn't break laws, victimise certain groups of people or target somebody personally. If people don't like what you post, the best thing to do is to ignore the comments they make.
Jealousy is a nasty trait that a small minority of internet users possess. If they use comments like the above or comment negatively on your appearance, what you wear, the way you do things, the things you do etc. the best thing you can do is not let it get to you (as hard as that sounds it is possible). Reflect on what they have said and really think about why they are saying it... it is not because it's true!!
Have my friends been positive about my blog? The majority yes, however the ones that made snidey comments I came to realise weren't true friends anyway!!
My first tip for battling the bullies is not to react to their comments. Doing this is what they want. Simply delete the comment so another user can't join in on their mission to make you feel negatively about what you're doing and also to stop an argument from being created if somebody decides to respond on your behalf. Block these users if needs be.
If people are nasty in person, you do not need to justify what you are doing. You are doing what you feel is best for you and you are getting enjoyment from what you are doing. Nobodies opinion should be taken into consideration if it doesn't concern them, your happiness comes before all else.
Do not feel guilty about you're decisions. If somebody wants you to do something for them e.g. a shoutout on Instagram or a product review for their products, and you do not have the time or you don't feel it appropriate for whatever reason, there is nothing wrong with politely reclining. If they hurl abuse at you for this decision, remain polite and again avoid negative responses.
You might think this will never happen to you, however from personal experience I can say it happens a lot more often than it should!!
Personal comments are probably the one I have experienced the most. A lot of people turn nasty very quickly when they don't get their own way or they don't like what you are doing. I have been told to 'kill myself' and that 'I should have been aborted'... what is wrong with these people!? You have a right to post what you want wherever you want as long as it doesn't break laws, victimise certain groups of people or target somebody personally. If people don't like what you post, the best thing to do is to ignore the comments they make.
Jealousy is a nasty trait that a small minority of internet users possess. If they use comments like the above or comment negatively on your appearance, what you wear, the way you do things, the things you do etc. the best thing you can do is not let it get to you (as hard as that sounds it is possible). Reflect on what they have said and really think about why they are saying it... it is not because it's true!!
I have heard so many horrible stories about how others have tried to humiliate bloggers, YouTubers etc. for doing what they love to do. Its wrong on so many levels. Negative people prevent others from following their dreams and doing things they love.
I'm just an ordinary 22 year old girl who loves to splurge a little on new products and tell the world what I think about them. I didn't ask for abuse and negativity thrown in my direction for doing so. I am as entitled to an opinion and as entitled to post whatever images I want as any other person on the internet.
Remember, you are doing this for yourself and although it'd be nice to get millions of hits and followers/subscribers, nobody should judge you for what you're doing.
Remember, you are doing this for yourself and although it'd be nice to get millions of hits and followers/subscribers, nobody should judge you for what you're doing.
Lovely blog about something all women feel/ experience. I'm a firm believer that positivity breeds positivity. I have experienced where a confident person has made me feel low, therefore it must be me, not them. Yet, a few years later I have seen for myself how there insecurities have surfaced and proven to me that I am fine just the way I am. Anyhow, fab read. Wishing you all the best on your blogging journey xx
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